Forgiveness is the first step towards showing kindness to an adversary. When you completely surrender the one who has wronged you and you set him free from the prison within (your mind), then you have suddenly set in motion a universal declaration of love and affection. Step two is to manifest the spiritual into the physical by being at peace with this person at all times. Step three, all agitations and hostility must be stopped. Step four, make an open declaration of truce by reconciling with the person. Lastly, in times of need, show higher consciousness by extending help in any shape or form. In doing all these, you’re also showing kindness to your own self and setting yourself free.